The Key to Getting Along with Everyone

Have you ever wondered why you didn’t get along with someone? Maybe it’s a colleague at work or school, a teacher, or maybe even your parents. Well, I do. Throughout middle school and part of high school, I would come home and complain everyday that I disliked one of my teachers or that one of my peers in my class was annoying. This was, until my sophomore year of high school when I attended Eagle U and learned a skill that would help me better understand and get along with others.

DiSC is a personality assessment that allows you to better understand yourself and others. Each of the four letters represents an aspect of a person’s personality.

Here are a few traits found in each of the personalities.

D: Likes to take charge, strong-willed, likes things to be to the point.

I: Extremely outgoing, loves meeting new people and isn’t shy of the spotlight.

S: Loves to make sure everyone gets along and is a people person.

C: Analytical, likes structure and is very organized.

As for myself, I discovered that I have the traits of the D, the C, and the I personalities. This knowledge has helped me not only understand myself better but has helped me read the personalities of others and adjust accordingly.

When I began my freshman year of college, I was excited to meet new people and was excited to have a roommate. When I learned that I would have not only one, but two roommates, I was even more excited. However, my excitement fell a bit after I actually met them. One of my roommates was very closed off. When I asked her questions, she always gave me a straightforward answer and I realized she had the character traits of a “D.” My other roommate was at first very nice and was very friendly. I realized this roommate held some of the personality traits of an “I” and an “S,” and because of this, we clicked. But I soon discovered that my other roommate didn’t appear to like us. I quickly remembered how she had the traits of the “D” personality and that she liked to be the leader and likes answers that are to the point. Because of this, I was able to change how I interacted with her and our friendship grew immediately. After this, I was able to change the way I was interacting with her and our friendship grew immediately. Knowing DiSC has not only made my living situation better but it has made being away at college much easier and honestly, more enjoyable.

Learning about DiSC not only made my living situation better but has made college much easier and more enjoyable.

Written by Jocelyn Spitz

Embrace Your Attitude Of Gratitude!

By Emma Anderson, Eagle “U” Alum and Team Leader

With Thanksgiving behind us, it’s the perfect time to think about gratitude. It seems that in the excitement over food and family, the effort to be thankful is not so great. We tend to list a few things (family, friends, food) that we’re grateful for before rushing to carve the turkey.

Then what? We move on with our lives, seldom pausing to be truly thankful for all we have. This is fine, it’s normal. Everyone does it! But what successful people understand is that sincere gratitude is a powerful tool and nothing should be taken for granted. Because most people are happy to accept life’s gifts without a second thought, real thankfulness stands out. People are impressed by it and when you are appreciative for what they give you, they are likely to give more in return.

One of my favorite parts of attending Eagle U was the “I Appreciate” notes. At the beginning of the week we were each given a pad of papers reading “I appreciate _______ Because ________.” Right off the bat, Steve emphasized the importance of gratitude and challenged us to hand out all of our “I Appreciate” notes. At first, I was skeptical. I thought this gratitude would be forced and insincere. As the week progressed and I looked for things to be thankful for, I realized something BIG: All around me there were people, services, events, and even objects that I was thankful to have.

Using “I Appreciate” notes was an opportunity for me to see everything I had to be grateful for, and I still have every note I received from all of the past Eagle U programs I attended. When someone gave me a note, I felt loved and acknowledged-like I was “doing some good” in the world. Receiving these notes made me want to know the people who gave them to me even better and help them in any way I could. In a similar way, those I delivered my notes to were impressed and overjoyed with my gratitude towards them. I have applied this concept outside of Eagle U by writing thank you notes to mentors and others who have helped me in various ways. The times I have forgotten to do so, I have really regretted and the times I remembered I was blown away by the positive repercussions.

Gratitude truly is powerful and implementing it regularly will change you life!

What’s Your Number?

Every morning when we wake up there’s a giant number written on our forehead.  We get dressed and go on with our day, carrying this number with us along the way.  Our magical number lets the world know how extraordinary we are.  Each person we come into contact with can read it…

…but who put this number there? 

We did! Whether we realize it or not, each day we tell the world how awesome (or not so awesome) we feel about who we are.

Sometimes we unknowingly scribble a “5” up there.  Before we know it, our entire day has become less than extraordinary and we end up feeling pretty average.  Soon others catch on, and they start to think of us as just a “5” too.  Thanks to the law of attraction, we are now running with a whole crew of “5”s…

…but why hang with “5”s when you can hang with “10”s?

Think about it: We  get to select the number we walk around with every single day.  If we wake up in the morning and put on our “10”, everyone around us will start to notice us as “10”s, too! The truth is that the world takes us at our own estimate.  If we don’t think highly of ourselves, how can we expect others to do the same?

As “10”s, we attract even more “10”s into our lives!  The more we treat ourselves as “10”s and encourage others to do the same, the more extraordinary the group of eagles we flock with will become!

Action Item: Wake up each morning, take our your imaginary marker and draw a 10 on your forehead!

Use Social Media To Get Ahead!

Social media speak is such a big part of our everyday lingo.  I say “like” and “tag” more times in one day than my dog’s name!  And whether we like it (pun intended!) or not, who we are on social media affects how people see us in REAL life.

Sometimes we forget, what we think of as sarcastic or funny might not always be seen that way.  Social media has the ability to INFLUENCE who people think you are…or are not.

Your college admissions counselor might take a peek at Facebook while reviewing applications because she wants to know what kind of characters she’s bringing on campus!  As she’s browsing through posts, she comes across your rant from last Wednesday after you blew that math final: “UGH! I HATE SCHOOL! I am quitting, who is with me?”  If she was on the fence about admitting you, that might just tip the scales.

Be cautious about what you “like” and who you “follow”.  It’s easy for people to check out your interests and likes on Facebook.   As a hiring manager, I often checked out the social media presence of applicants.   I was surprised at the information people made public on their Facebook accounts!  Trust me, the girl who just liked the page “Lazy People Problems”, didn’t make it too far in the application process.

Sometimes, we just need to put a little more thought into the image we create of ourselves online.   Instead of shutting down your account or blocking everyone under the sun, consider asking yourself these two questions when creating your online content:

  1. What does this post or photo say about who I am?  Does it fit with how I want others to perceive me?
  2. Would I be embarrassed if a future employer, professor, or college admissions board read this post or saw this photo?

Social media is meant to be fun.  It’s also meant to be an expression of ourselves, but we can’t deny the fact that it has turned into an online platform for self-marketing.  Take advantage of that!  Showcase your skills, your positive relationships, your good nature, etc.  Use your social media presence to make future employers and admissions boards WANT you as part of their organization or school.

Your Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter accounts can give you a competitive advantage and career head start if you make the right moves.

Use Your Network To Meet Your Dream Mentor!


Last week we reviewed the importance of interviewing for information—but we left out the most important step to making that happen!

In order to copy the genius of others, we need to get in front of them first.  We often fantasize about the high profile leaders we dream of meeting, eventually convincing ourselves there’s no way we could ever get connected to an Oprah, Donald Trump or Ashton Kutcher.

As Eagles, we aren’t intimidated by the challenge! We know that if we want to be the best, then we need to learn from the people making it happen in a big way.

How do we get to these people though?

We are closer than we think.  All we have to do is EVALUATE our networks and ASK.

Think of the mentors you’d like to have in your life.  You can list specific names of future mentors or list general qualities you’d like to see in a future mentor.  Now, think of the network of people in your life (parents, family, friends, professors, classmates, coworkers, etc.), and ASK them who they can introduce you to from your list.  You might be surprised at the connections you can make by simply asking!

Let’s review: You are closer than you think to the people you want to learn from, all you have to do is EVALUATE YOUR NETWORK and ASK.

Action ItemList three mentors you’d like to meet and identify who in your network can help you meet that person.


At Eagle U, students will learn and practice the process of identifying the 7 Circles to getting the mentors they want in their lives.  Check out our July 7th-11th program at the University of Louisville this summer! Email for more information.

Be Interested, Not Interesting

It was the summer after my senior year in high school and I was sitting down to chat with some of the top leaders at NBC Universal.  I started to get a little nervous.  What was I going to say?  Lucky for me, I had just spent a week at Eagle U learning exactly how to interview for information.

Back in high school, I was interested in becoming a journalist or news anchor, and I wanted to soak up the genius from people who were already out there doing it!   I didn’t want these people to give me a job or internship; I just wanted them to talk to me about their career.  What I really needed to figure out was what to say when I got in the room so I could really get to know their story.

At Eagle U that summer, I remember learning the key to interviewing for information:


In order to show our interest in someone, we need to show that we’ve done our homework.  Before you sit down with someone to ask about their journey look up their LinkedIN profile, check out their bio online, or even ask someone who might know them for background information.

Most importantly, when you get the chance to actually sit down and interview with this person, make sure you keep the focus on their journey.  Be genuinely interested in their story and do not try to impress them with your personal successes.  The purpose of interviewing for information is to COPY GENIUS not to land an internship.

The more often you repeat this exercise with people who are successfully doing what it is you want (or might want) to do, the greater leap you will take towards your own successful future!


Who are 2 people you want to interview for information?  Research their background online and come up with 3 questions you would want to ask each of them. 


Build Your Own Success Dream Team!


What if I told you that you could have your own success dream team?  There are successful people out there waiting for you to soak up their genius!  These four actions will help you develop meaningful relationships with those people who are out there already doing what it is you want to do!


You will be surprised at how willing people are to help you if you simply take the opportunity to ASK them.  Identify people who are doing what it is that you want to do, and ASK them if they will share their story with you.  You can use this as a basis for identifying who might make a meaningful match for you as a mentor.   Once you’ve made that connection, ASK if they would be okay with you following up with them for guidance and advice.

Follow Up.

Okay, so you took the step to ASK someone for advice, support, or guidance. It is now your responsibility to follow up with that person.  Don’t wait for them to reach out!

Create a specific plan for follow up with your mentor so that you know you are respecting their time and personal workload.  Do not overflow their inbox with messages or questions.  Instead, develop an agreed upon communication plan to keep in touch.

Reflect & Take Action.

Take time to reflect on the advice or guidance given to you by your mentors.  Make sure you carefully consider how their wisdom can be applied to your specific situation.   To skip the trial and error process so many of us make, copy the genius of those who are doing what it is you want to do and avoid the potential setbacks.

Set a goal for implementing your mentor’s advice.  Is it a short-term or long-term action item?  Make sure you create a time frame for your goal that makes sense, and then take actions that align with that goal!

Show Gratitude.

By simply being interested in someone else, you are giving the ultimate compliment! However, it is important to follow up your mentor sessions with a message of gratitude or appreciation to further show them how valuable they are to you.

The art of the handwritten thank you note is not dead! Yes, this might seem like an ancient practice in our tech-driven society, but stop and think about it for a quick second…when you receive a hand written note, how special does it make you feel? It takes a few quick seconds to send an email, but writing a note, stamping it, and mailing it to someone requires personal effort on your part.  It shows that individual that you value his or her time and advice.

You can use this process to attract mentors into your life who you want to “copy” in some way, whether it be their professional path, their relationships, their spirituality, or more.


In the next week, identify ONE mentor you’d like to have in your life and ASK them to share their story with you.  Once you get the process started, you are on your way to building your own success dream team!

The Law Of Attraction in Action

What do you want to be doing in life? What makes you move and gives you energy?

In order to get MORE of what we WANT and LESS of what we DON’T WANT, we need to be observant of what is around us.  Leaders maximize resources.  They look at what’s around them to figure out where they can find more of the “good” stuff that they want in their lives.  Then, they FOCUS on attracting it!

Remember, the Law of Attraction never fails!  What we focus on expands.  Where our energy goes, we go!

We must continue to put forth energy and action towards continuously improving ourselves. Leaders don’t believe in limited resources.  They believe in maximizing whatever resources are available.  A leader is constantly learning and constantly attracting more of what he or she wants into his or her life.

What are you attracting into your life RIGHT NOW? Does it align with the leader you want to become?

-Contributor: Eagle U Alum, John Carney

Slam Dunk Your Success

By now most of us have lost hope on our billion dollar bracket, as our March Madness brackets are inked with RED.  Hey, at least we took a shot, right?

But looking back at the underdog teams like the Dayton Flyers, I can’t help but think to myself, how could they, against all odds, make it so unexpectedly far?  It’s safe to say a majority of people picked Dayton’s opponents early on to move to the next round, not Dayton.

Despite the cards being stacked against these underdog teams, though, many of them pressed on, further than most of us expected.

It brings us to an important reality: so often we are wrong about who or what will succeed.  We get caught up focusing on who “should” win that we forget to live “in the game”.  Each team, like each of us, faces moments when they must come to play, put their best foot forward, and compete for their goals.  

But what if each team played according to how much others believed in their ability to win? We surely wouldn’t be shaking our heads at our destroyed brackets.

More importantly, though, what if we achieved only as far as others believed we could?

Life for us is like March Madness.  When others hear of our goals and dreams, they often times place “bets” on the likelihood of us achieving these goals and dreams.  Sure, we may never know what they truly think, but what if their “bet” drove our outcome? 

We’d rarely succeed if our success depended on what other people thought of our dreams.  Lucky for us, we don’t let the “bets” others place on us determine the course of our future.

Others can “bet” (and they will!), but we will set goals and align our actions to meet those goals despite what anyone has stacked against us.

We can’t allow someone’s wager on us to determine if we will or will not succeed. 

We’ve got to work for our goals and stay focused on what we believe we can achieve.  One of my favorite quotes says it best:

“If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work on you.”  -Jim Rohn